"The first time I stepped on an NBA court, I became a businessman." -Lebron James
Think about the first time you had an experience. Think about the emotions that came with it: sadness, if it was the first time you got your heart broken; fear, if you were starting the first day of a new school or job; happiness, if it was an experience you were looking forward to...
No matter the experience, they likely have one thing in common: you remember them. You remember who you were with, how you felt and sometimes, even the minute details that you may not remember from subsequent similar experiences.
This week's action: Think of three firsts you can experience within the next month. But make sure they're not firsts that will distract you from your 2014 goals!
Jul 18, 2014
#394: Spouse Material (Friday, July 18)
Imagine that you're single. You meet someone, go on a few dates and you really start to dig them. This situation feels like it actually has the potential to go somewhere.
You go away for a weekend. S/he tells you all about their goals and dreams including the plans they had for 2014. You ask where they are with those plans and they chuckle and admit, embarassedly, that they haven't gotten any of their goals accomplished thus far. They give you reasons why they couldn't get to their goals - it was a hard winter; unexpected things came up; their financial situation was tenuous - but none of the reasons sound like viable ones to you.
Now imagine that the person giving the excuses is you talking to someone you just met.
This week's action: List all qualities that are important to you when choosing a life partner. All the things you need - not the nice-to-haves. Check the list and see how you stack up against your own list.
Would you want to date someone who was lax about their goals and didn't have their priorities straight? No? Then start actin' up!
You go away for a weekend. S/he tells you all about their goals and dreams including the plans they had for 2014. You ask where they are with those plans and they chuckle and admit, embarassedly, that they haven't gotten any of their goals accomplished thus far. They give you reasons why they couldn't get to their goals - it was a hard winter; unexpected things came up; their financial situation was tenuous - but none of the reasons sound like viable ones to you.
Now imagine that the person giving the excuses is you talking to someone you just met.
This week's action: List all qualities that are important to you when choosing a life partner. All the things you need - not the nice-to-haves. Check the list and see how you stack up against your own list.
Would you want to date someone who was lax about their goals and didn't have their priorities straight? No? Then start actin' up!
Jul 11, 2014
#393: Know Thyself, Be Thyself (Friday, July 11)
To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man. - the character Polonius in Hamlet
There are a lot of troubled, confused souls walking around in the world. But you don't know it, because they're like stripper cakes - pretty and perfect on the outside and hollow on the inside.
Sometimes when you don't have a clear conviction in who you are, it's easy to get caught up in other people's stuff or to be overwhelmed by negativity. Knowing oneself can also help you with your goals. After all, if you don't know who you are, how can you know where you want to go, and how can you partner with someone to help you get there?
This week's action: Meditate. Go to a meditation studio, or do it by yourself, but spend at least an hour just clearing your mind of all the clutter.
There are a lot of troubled, confused souls walking around in the world. But you don't know it, because they're like stripper cakes - pretty and perfect on the outside and hollow on the inside.
Sometimes when you don't have a clear conviction in who you are, it's easy to get caught up in other people's stuff or to be overwhelmed by negativity. Knowing oneself can also help you with your goals. After all, if you don't know who you are, how can you know where you want to go, and how can you partner with someone to help you get there?
This week's action: Meditate. Go to a meditation studio, or do it by yourself, but spend at least an hour just clearing your mind of all the clutter.
Jul 4, 2014
#392: Alone vs. Lonely (Friday, July 4)
If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company. - Jean-Paul Sartre
Earlier this year, we talked about having an accountability partner or ally to help you with your goals. So how is it going? Hopefully your answer will be "Great!" But if it's not, don't lose heart; sometimes along life's journey, you have to go it alone.
This week's action: Think about the goals you set for yourself in January and the people you asked to help you with them. Conduct a mid-year evaluation. Did they hold up their end of the bargain? Did you? Are you living up to your personal mission statement? And more importantly, did you accomplish any of your goals?
If the last answer is "No," think about what you you plan to do differently in the second half of the year. And if you need to do it alone, there is nothing wrong with doing so.
Earlier this year, we talked about having an accountability partner or ally to help you with your goals. So how is it going? Hopefully your answer will be "Great!" But if it's not, don't lose heart; sometimes along life's journey, you have to go it alone.
This week's action: Think about the goals you set for yourself in January and the people you asked to help you with them. Conduct a mid-year evaluation. Did they hold up their end of the bargain? Did you? Are you living up to your personal mission statement? And more importantly, did you accomplish any of your goals?
If the last answer is "No," think about what you you plan to do differently in the second half of the year. And if you need to do it alone, there is nothing wrong with doing so.
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