#474: The Enablers (Friday, January 23)

en·a·bler

iˈnāblər,e-/

noun

1. a person or thing that makes something possible.

For some reason, an enabler is always seen as a negative person who supports bad behavior. But an enabler can also be positive. Everyone is put into our lives for a reason. 

1. Look at your list of fears and prioritize them.  
2. Now think about the people in your life and put them into two categories:
1. The people who help to promote/prolong the fear (Negative Enablers)
2. The people who can help you get over your fear (Positive Enablers)
3. For the Negative Enablers, let them know that the buck stops here. Be specific and tell them that you don't want to hear their negativity anymore regarding your fear.
4. For the Positive Enablers, ask for help. 

Fears, once confronted, aren't so bad.

#473: What Has Fear Cost You? (Friday, January 22)

There are probably some things you haven't done because you were afraid. What was the opportunity cost of your fears? I asked a few people what fear had cost them and here are some of their responses.

What has fear cost you? Make a list. Then decide if you're going to continue to miss out because you're afraid. There's still a chance to turn some of those things around.

#472: What Are You Afraid Of? (Friday, January 15)

As I said last week, you cannot conquer what you will not confront. But how do you know what to confront?

Do you know what you're afraid of - I mean really afraid of, or are your fears just theoretical ideas floating in the air?

Just like goals, I believe you have to name your fears. Write them down. Think about them logically: why does that thing scare you?

Then devise a strategy to help you conquer each fear.

#471: A Confrontation (Friday, January 8)

"You cannot conquer what you will not confront."

Some people can tackle any situation head on and clearly articulate their point without breaking a sweat. Others? Not so much.

If you're someone in the latter category, remember that sometimes a confrontation is necessary in order to fully address a situation.

Don't be afraid; confront, conquer and move on.

#470: Scaredy-Cat (Friday, January 1)

When was the last time you did something fearless? Do you remember what you did and better yet, how it made you feel? Invincible, I bet.

Fear can cripple you if you let it. So, don't let it!

I know it's not as simple as that. But you've gotta at least try. Confront the things that scare you, that you're afraid of. You'll find, in many cases, that the reality is never as bad as the thought of it.

So here's to a year of being unafraid. Here's to fearlessness in 2016.