Good Friday #624: I Can Do What I Want (Friday, December 21)

Don't let anyone tell you that you have to stay in toxic relationships just because of bloodlines. You are an adult, you can do what you want, even if that means making a choice that disappoints others but ultimately makes you happy.

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On black fatherhood. Today, I had to block my father’s number again. Growing up with an abusive relationship with my father messed me up growing up. It was damaging to my self-esteem, my confidence, my self-worth. I don’t even have many words to say about him except that I’m grateful to exist in this parallel universe. To experience love, fatherhood and what a healthy father-child relationship looks like on a daily basis is an incredible privilege and is especially healing for me. I’m thankful to have a partner and best friend to co-parent with in a healthy, loving way. It’s unfortunate that sometimes we learn best what we don’t want and shouldn’t do from the people who should teach us the exact opposite. Just a gentle reminder to everyone to honor your mental health. If someone isn’t good for you, it’s okay to remove them from your life and not feel guilty. If someone hasn’t changed or is triggering, move on. A gentle note to family members, if you see someone is a horrible person, is abusive, manipulative or triggering, stop encouraging your loved ones to continue to endure the abuse and pain. Encourage the people you love to do what’s best for their physical, mental, and spiritual health not just what “looks good”. Grateful for these dudes and the one not pictured. Grateful for my family. Grateful for my mother. Grateful for growth, maturity and healing. Grateful to share this testimony with you. Peace p.s. little dude loves sniffing fresh eucalyptus leaves. We all do, honestly. Haha. Herbal therapy. EDIT: sometimes people who hurt you will play the victim role, don’t give them that privilege.

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