Nov 9, 2012

#306: Six Degrees (or Less!) (Friday, November 9)

These days, our six degrees of separation has shrunk to two or three. It's not uncommon for me to visit my LinkedIn or Facebook page to find that my potential connections have increased by the addition of one new contact.

So it goes without saying that you should beware of what you say (and to whom) to avoid an embarassing situation, or worse, fracturing a relationship that you may need down the line. Years ago, I went to a party with a girlfriend and saw a guy I'd briefly dated. I pointed him out to my girlfriend and was just about to tell her to avoid him at all costs because he was a jerk, only to be interrupted with, "Oh, I know _____! He's my cousin." That would've been awkward. Lol.

Recently, I had two people initiate conversations about a third party where the person initiating the conversation didn't know that I knew the third party. Thankfully, in one instance the conversation was very complimentary. The other? Not so much. Of course, I said nothing, but I made a mental note.

So how do you navigate the Shrinking Six Degrees of Separation?
  • Know your Circle of Trust--the people you can vent to or share "unpolished" comments without fear of it being repeated
  • Never share unflattering comments via email or text. It's very easy for written communications to get into the wrong hands.
  • Don't make unflattering statements about others (outside your Circle of Trust) that you wouldn't feel comfortable saying to them in person.

No comments: